Natural vs Weave: A Silly Divide

Hello people! Long time no see yeah? I've missed this space so much! I had to take time off to focus on some pressing issues but your girl is back now. Today I'm going to talk about something that always pisses me off whenever I see it. I've been planning this blog post for ages but I always put it off because even writing about it makes me feel silly. But I've decided to write about it today FINALLY. 

So there are some people out there that believe rocking your natural hair means you're more African/Black than the ladies who relax their hair or wear weaves and wigs. It's a bit shocking eh? How can your hairstyle determine your degree of "African-ness?" But it is something that I see on social media especially on Twitter and Instagram and also in the comment section of popular blogs/websites.  I am here to say today that I think that is total BULLSHIT.

This summarises everything perfectly.

Personally when it comes to my hair, I always lean more towards braids and rocking my natural hair (I've even got a natural hair series which you can check HERE) but I do like to switch it up once in awhile with weaves.But there are some ladies who lean more towards weaves and wigs as their protective style or lean towards it just because they like it. Or the ladies who prefer to relax their hair.In my opinion they are just as African/Black  as naturalistas. 

I understand the reasoning behind encouraging black women to embrace their God-given hair because for so long we've been conditioned to believe that black hair is bad hair. There's nothing wrong with trying to change the mindsets of those who believe their hair is inferior, I am a staunch supporter of this.What I do not like is when you decide that it is a MUST. Nope, it all boils down to choice.What of those who just LIKE wearing wigs? Not everyone who wears weaves or relaxes their hair is doing it because of inferiority complex. 
And not everyone who wears a wig is bald underneath. Even if they are is it your baldness biko?

I see a lot of snide comments in the comment section of blogs. If a picture of someone wearing a weave or something is put up, some people start going on and on about how she must hate herself blah blah blah. It always makes me so angry. Life is all about choices and when it comes to hair, we all have the right to choose and not be castigated by our choices.

I think it's high time we let people choose to do whatever they want. We spend so much time pointing fingers at others when they're different from us. Time that could be used to  address more important things. I believe in simply doing you. That has always been my motto. Do you! Live your life how you want to and let others do the same. xx


  1. I couldn't agree more with this. Experimenting with other styles does not equal self-hate. It's very frustrating dealing with people that make these assumptions. I hate their tone especially, if you truly feel someone is struggling with self esteem issues does your rude or snobbish comment help? Does it draw them closer or push them away?

    1. Exactly! You hit the nail on the head Ada, thanks for reading. xx

  2. Hi Demi,

    I think assessing one's "Africaness" by their hair is quite unfair. These kinds of evaluations are so unnecessary. I totally love my natural hair and I rock it alot. But criticising someone who doesn't do same is just so wrong. Interesting piece, dear!



    1. Hi Precious! They're very unnecessary . Thanks for reading. xx

  3. The craze for "rocking your natural hair" has never been stronger. While I admire the thickness of natural hair, I must say maintenance is a big issue. For those who do not mind going through the stress of keeping a wash day (I didn't even know people had wash days until recently) and buying all sort of hair conditioners, moisturizers, shampoos orisirisi I say well done. As for me, my hair is not something that I am fazed about seeing that it is not even in a very great state so I'll stick with hair extensions.

    Problems are too many with trying to be 'very African' to begin with.
    If you fix your hair, you are unAfrican.
    If you bleach, you are unAfrican.
    If you go for a cosmeti surgery, you are unAfrican.

    I think every African has been diluted in one way or the other. Afterall, the language I am writing in is English.

    P.S. I have something to tell you, how do I pass the message across?

    1. Haha I live for your comments Cherish. Thank you for this, I agree with you wholly.There's no point trying to 'be African', we already are. xx


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